Moving to a new place is one of the most stressful life events a person can go through. Research suggests that is the third most stressful event behind the death of a loved one and divorce. Surprisingly, even when it is a desired move and what you feel will be an exciting adventure, moving can pose unexpected mental hurdles. For instance, it is common to experience temporary or transient changes in sleep and appetite as well as feelings of anxiety and low mood. Leaving what is familiar is a shock to our systems. We are creatures of habit. While we at times seek stimulation and change, our bodies and minds also crave the comfort of being grounded in the familiar.

If you have relocated and find yourself struggling to adapt, there are many tools to keep in your pocket. In the unfamiliar, try to create a consistent routine for yourself and build enjoyable things into that routine. There are likely many reasons that brought you to the place you are now. Focus on those things and intentionally incorporate them into your life. For example, if you chose a
specific area to live because of the local park, make it a point to spend time there. Take advantage of what is around you!

Lean on social support and build your network! Engaging in activities you enjoy when out and about can afford you the opportunity to make friends with people who share similar interests. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there or even to reinvent yourself. In a new place, you have the freedom to explore new aspects of yourself and to grow unencumbered by what others who know you might expect. However, do not be afraid to also lean on family and friends from home. Reach out to loved ones who you feel will be supportive and who can offer comfort to you during this difficult transition. This may be a great opportunity to strengthen old relationships by seeing who will take the time to be there for you and value your relationship even when you are not physically close by.

Be kind to yourself! Making life-altering decisions, like moving, is hard and can naturally lead us to question our choices when they feel uncomfortable in the moment. The grass always seems greener on the other side. Remind yourself or even keep a list of all the reasons that brought you to your decision. There was likely a lot of logic and planning that went into this decision! Focus on making the best of your present situation and using this time of exploration to make any needed changes that may have been difficult when you were maintaining your old status quo.

Be aware of your own limitations and needs. Seek professional help if you find yourself experiencing emotional and/or physical challenges that make it hard for you to function in your daily life. For example, look out for loss of interest in things that you typically enjoy, persistent challenges with sleep/appetite, increased irritability/sadness, or significant feelings of being on edge or anxiety attacks that make it difficult to function. Seeking the help of trained therapist can provide you more targeted supports and help you to develop more effective coping strategies.

Again, relocating offers a chance to grow and your new situation has afforded you the opportunity to test yourself and gain new skills to create a better and stronger you.

Kimberly Sitter, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist